Although couples are once happy together, promising vows of life forever together, it doesn’t always end up the way that it started. More and more couples are filing for divorce as soon as a few short years after tying the knot.
Although no situations are ever exactly identical, the underlying reasons are usually the same. Here are some of the most common reasons why marriages end in divorce despite couples best intentions.
Getting Married Out of Obligation
A lot of people feel like they are obligated to get married after a certain amount of time together. Rather than getting married because they want to spend the rest of their lives together, they get married out of social obligation.
They may very well love each other, however, loving someone and marrying someone are very different things. It’s important that before you make a lifelong commitment to someone that you have a genuine friendship based on trust and connection, not just the amount of time as a couple.
If there is even the slightest amount of doubt in your mind, you shouldn’t get married until you feel absolutely sure.
Loss Of Individuality
Unfortunately, a lot of marriages result in codependency. It’s important that aside from your relationship together that you also have friendships apart from that. You should have your own interests and activities which don’t’ always involve the other partner.
Often couples don’t feel comfortable doing things without each other. Over time it takes away their individuality, leaving them feeling empty. As a result, they start to associate their partner for their feelings of dissatisfaction with themselves and divorce happens.
Lack of Intimacy
When couples become parents, they stop focusing on each other and start focusing on the kids. They forget that in order to keep a relationship alive, intimacy is crucial.
Although children require a lot of attention in the younger years, they need less and less as they get older. Couples who spent all of their energy on their kids and now have an empty nest realize that it’s only them and their spouse now. They’ve lost sight of who they are as a relationship since their identity was just about being parents for so long. Their lack of something in common results in falling out of love.
Although in the big picture money isn’t important, it plays a significant role in our daily lives. Having different attitudes towards where money should go, can cause constant arguing.
If one of you thinks that your money should be going towards the future while the other one says it should be spent on the present, it will start to create a distance.
Eventually, your attitudes about your hard earned money are so conflicting that the only reasonable conclusion is to get divorced.